FLIPPIN THE SCRIPT-DARVO

 𝐅𝐋𝐈𝐏𝐏𝐈𝐍 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐏𝐓 - DARVO⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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𝐃𝐀𝐑𝐕𝐎, introduced by Dr. Jennifer Freyd in 1997: ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

🙅🏾‍♂️Deny⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

🥷Attack⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

🙃👩🏽‍⚖️Reverse Victim & Offender ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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This is a proven concept that most of us from the 𝟽𝟶𝘴-𝟿𝟶𝘴 know as "𝐅𝐥𝐢𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐩𝐭". In the article I read they call it "𝐕𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐦 𝐑𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐥". ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Talking about Celebrities life stories given in interviews with my Fiancé Tessa, and our OWN LIFE events, this article caught me as soon as I read: "𝘊𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘬𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘤 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺’𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴."⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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We have to sit and reflect within ourselves to come to terms that 𝗪𝐄 𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐇𝐀𝐕𝐄 𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐈𝐂𝐄𝐃 "FLIPPING THE SCRIPT" as a society. Unfortunately, some of us have even 𝘧𝘦𝘭𝘵/𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 this psychological dilemma caused by an abuser. My Fiancé likes to call this "𝗪𝐞𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 😭", my dad calls it "𝐂𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐨𝐝𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐓𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 🐊". ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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The negative aspect to the "𝘈𝘮𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘋𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘮" is that it is heavily rooted in the belief "𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘖𝘕𝘓𝘠 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘋𝘌𝘚𝘌𝘙𝘝𝘌" and being HUMAN - we 𝐃𝐄𝐒𝐏𝐈𝐒𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐕𝐈𝐍𝐆 that "𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐄𝐒𝐄𝐑𝐕𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐆𝐎𝐎𝐃 𝐏𝐄𝐎𝐏𝐋𝐄". It's 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳, that no matter your stance you can be 𝐒𝐄𝐄𝐍 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝗪𝐑𝐎𝐍𝐆 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐑 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐜𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐮𝐦𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 EVEN when you know YOU PRESENT YOURSELF 𝘍𝘙𝘖𝘔 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘏𝘌𝘈𝘙𝘛. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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The 𝘢𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘳 (and to rip the band-aid 🩹 off I'll just use this term as well: 𝐍𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭) will always make the outside judges (under FEAR/PERSUASIVE intent) question the victim. 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 (𝗪𝐄 𝐇𝐀𝐕𝐄 𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐇𝐀𝐃 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄): '𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐥𝐚𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐘 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬, 𝐭𝐨 𝐏𝐎𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐁𝐋𝐘 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭?' IN THAT MOMENT: That's when we all π🥴𝘬 𝘶𝘱 lol! We are then PREDISPOSED to believe the Abuser of the situation for that slight moment...but THAT is all that's needed for 𝘋𝘖𝘜𝘉𝘛 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘪𝘯. They 𝐅𝐋𝐈𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐃 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐏𝐓 𝐎𝐍 𝐘𝐎𝐔. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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The worse part is the 𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐦 can begin to turn to the 𝐒𝐀𝐌𝐄 𝐏𝐀𝐆𝐄 𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐫 and believe their words. Saying to their self: "𝘋𝘢𝘮𝘯...𝘞𝘦𝘭𝘭...𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵...😓😣😶". The mind games begin to happen EVEN THOUGH the innocent person KNOWS they don't deserve the: emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, or RACISM. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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𝐃𝐀𝐑𝐕𝐎 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐌𝐎𝐉𝐈𝐒 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐓𝐎𝐎𝐋𝐒 to help you figure out when YOU are in a "𝘍𝘓𝘐𝘗𝘗𝘐𝘕𝘎 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘚𝘊𝘙𝘐𝘗𝘛" 𝘚𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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You'll 𝐅𝐄𝐄𝐋 the depiction of the EMOJIS before you can even put 𝘞𝘖𝘙𝘋𝘚 to it. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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🙅🏾‍♂️𝐃 :: 𝐃𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐚𝐥 || ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐳𝐲.”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐞?”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝐈 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭.” ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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🥷𝐀 :: 𝐀𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐤 ||⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝗪𝐡𝐲 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐧𝐨𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐦𝐲 𝐩𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞?”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝗪𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭?”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝐀𝐬 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐚 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞! 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.” ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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🙃👩🏽‍⚖️𝐑𝐕𝐎 :: 𝐑𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐕𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐦 & 𝐎𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫|| 𝐅𝐋𝐈𝐏𝐏𝐈𝐍 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐏𝐓⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝐈’𝐦 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐝.”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐜𝐡 𝐡𝐮𝐧𝐭!”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

“𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭.” ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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My Fiancé likes to call this "Weaponizing Tears 😭", my dad calls it "Crocodile Tears 🐊". ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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There's a viral video of a white lady about to hit a black woman in a store, when the black woman noticed she was about to get hit she exclaimed and IMMEDIATELY the white lady began to cry hysterically. The black woman recorded it on her phone and she was in disbelief in what she was experiencing...the white lady went from 𝐇𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐂𝐎𝐂𝐊𝐄𝐃 𝐁𝐀𝐂𝐊 𝐓𝐎 𝐇𝐈𝐓 🎯 to flipping the script 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 "𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴". The worse part was that NO ONE IN THE STORE said anything while this white lady is now in Crocodile Tear Mode sitting on the floor 𝐜𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠...𝐊𝐍𝐎𝗪𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐒𝐇𝐄 π🥴𝐤'𝐝 𝐮𝐩. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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"The person who called them out is now in the crosshairs." At this point the only thing saving either party is the 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐆𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐘 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐊𝐍𝐎𝗪𝐋𝐄𝐃𝐆𝐄 they have within that exchange. The 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐣𝐮𝐝𝐠𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐞𝐞🙈, 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫🙉, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤🙊 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐥𝐝 and acknowledge only what they can relate to in a 𝐬𝐤𝐞𝐰𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐨𝐧/𝐕𝐈𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Self Growth Healing Spread
To Understand these cards you have to understand LORE and LESSONS of the characters on them along with the general meanings of the tarot

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